If you havent heard by now, the beautiful Zoe Saldana has had a lot to celebrate as of late. Her and fiance Marco Perego celebrated the birth of their twins recently, and they are planning a wedding in the near future.
Ms. Saldana made this weeks #WCW not because she is a bomb actress, but she and her husband are about to switch things up a bit and we think they deserve some recognition.
Despite American norms where the wife takes the husbands last name, Saldana and Perego have decided that he will take her last name after they are married. Is this weird? Absolutly not! Although Saldana was scared her husband would be emasculated by other men, she has since supported his decision in taking her name, and believes this could bring other men to think about what defines a “man” and encouraged all men to have the courage to change social norms.
Her entire open letter reads…
Fathers, sons, brothers, men everywhere: Your legacy will not perish if you take your partner’s surname, or she keeps hers. I’ve been made aware that a comment I made regarding my marriage has garnered some attention. I felt proud that my husband decided to take my last name as his own… and I his. I shared my hesitation with him when he told me about his decision, not only did he say, “I don’t give a shhheeeetttt!!” (with a very strong Italian accent!!) he also asked me, “Why not? What are you so afraid of?” And it made me wonder… What am I so afraid of?
Why is it so surprising, shocking- eventful that a man would take his wife’s surname? Women have never been asked if its ok for them to give up their names — why doesn’t that make the news?
Men, you will not cease to exist by taking your partner’s surname. On the contrary — you’ll be remembered as a man who stood by change. I know our sons will respect and admire their father more because their father lead by example.
Gentlemen, I implore you to think outside the box- remove the box altogether. Let’s redefine masculinity. A real “man” leads along side his partner. A real man accepts his mortality. A real man acknowledges that nothing can be done alone.
I hope that the “buzz” behind this topic isn’t just for gossip — but an inspiration for us all to look within and see what is truly important.
Let’s start by letting go of some of the limitations we have inherited from the past, and forge a new path moving forward.
Zoe and Marco